Comments on: Father’s Day Greetings

By: rachy

rachy — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 02:17:21 +0000

i really love Sandi’s comments, as i always preferred making my own cards and using my own words. often, i would get cards that are blank inside.

like Sandi says, not all our lives and family relationships fit nicely into a “hallmark holiday.” for example, i never did meet my real father, and then my mom remarried when i was in college. so, i always found saying something in my own words worked best!

By: Sandi

Sandi — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 01:34:11 +0000

That was a great post, Jenny. I am not married so I will stay out of the debate on whether or not to buy Father’s or Mother’s Day cards for your significant other. I do agree with the difficulty of buying cards, though. I have given up on buying cards for my father on Father’s Day; I create them myself and print them on my computer. This is due to the fact that none of the card companies have cards for my situation. Most of them say things about how he was always there when the card giver was growing up (he wasn’t. I hadn’t seen my father since I was four or five until I finally established a relationship with him as an adult…almost ten years ago) or they are too sappy and reminiscent of things that happened in the card giver’s childhood due to the card recipients wonderful fatherly skills (which would be a total lie in my situation). So, I usually wait until the last minute and then try to create something on the computer that says something halfway decent without saying very much at all. I should open my own business creating cards for people like me…those who don’t have the “traditional” parent-child relationship with one or both parents.

By: frank mundo

frank mundo — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:46:42 +0000

Another great post.

frank

By: Gerard McLean

Gerard McLean — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 22:37:46 +0000

Why are spouses buying Mother’s and Father’s Day cards? Leave that up to the kids. Didn’t get a card? Blame your kids, not your spouse. Kids gotta learn early. You may want to cover for them until they are 3-4, but after that, they are on their own!

And, ladies, your husband is NEVER another child. Ever. Not even a funny joke because the reverse is never funny to you.

One kid texted me, the other got a card and a book. The spouse did nothing at all. Just the way it should be.

By: rachy

rachy — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 00:04:08 +0000

well, jen, now that you put it that way, i’d make an exception!

and ed, i’m glad your story ends happily and i’ll make note of your advice!

By: admin

admin — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:37:56 +0000

Ed, quite a story. Rachy, I definately deserve a mother’s day card from my husband… he is my 3rd child too many days of the year. Ha cha cha!

By: Wendy Haaf

Wendy Haaf — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:28:25 +0000

It would be nice to find more options between ’sickly sweet enough to induce projectile vomiting’ and ’stupid jokes about what a pain I am and/or hubby’s lack of skill with fixing things/tools/etc. I think I represent a large, untapped market — take note, greeting card writers!

By: Ed

Ed — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:25:20 +0000

I dig Rachy’s point, but will add that until they come up with a “National Apologizing For The Other 364 Days Day,” Mother’s and Father’s Days are really great opportunities to smooth lives over.
Case in point: The weekend before Father’s Day I was doing some yard work and suddenly felt as though I was having a heart attack. Ambulance to the hospital, pumped full of fluids and laid out on a gurney until the multiple test results came back (turns out I’m REALLY healthy and whatthehellwasthatanyway?). So before the results come I’m laying there more than mildly panicked and teary eyed, wondering how my kids will take my death. Will she find someone else? Will my replacement demonstrate the proper reverence for my awesome power tool collection? Will I meet Einstein? And she, my babies’ momma, the woman I’ve waited for all my life, says “You know, I saw the way you looked at ____’s mother at that birthday party last week. You really have a problem.” (I was neither ogling nor flirting nor plotting and she really should know better, especially since said woman’s husband looked like your fireman photo from a few posts ago). Discussion/Hilarity ensues. And three curtains away I can hear the guy who was wheeled in with a gunshot wound to the chest go, “DAY-umm!” Day-umm is right, my brother. You don’t wanna know.
But then I got a really great veggie omelet on Father’s Day so, you know, it’s cool.
Oh, and Rachy, if you’re not calling him “daddy” once in a while, you’re doing it wrong.

By: BreezyMama.com

BreezyMama.com — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 01:45:13 +0000

Loved this! Mine said “I have 3 words for you… hot cha cha.” Made no sense.

By: rachy

rachy — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 06:38:57 +0000

while any hallmark holiday is always an opportunity to renew your love for your spouse, may i point out something about these 2 holidays, a point a boss mentioned to me some 20+ years ago, and something my honey and i live with to this day:

father’s day is about your father; hubby is not your father!

likewise, mother’s day is about your mother; you, jen, are not your hubby’s mother!

now maybe you’d feel funny not sending cards on these days, but don’t let hallmark run your life or make the cultural decisions for society. at least, that’s what i say. in my family we’ve lived by this and we focus on honoring our own parents on their respective days, and helping our kids honor us on these 2 days (e.g., dad taking them to a store to buy something nice for mom for mother’s day). now that they’re teens, they buy their own gifts, like, this year, an exciting 3 pair of white socks for their dad! (well, at least it’s not another tie that dad will never wear!) but it’s the thought that counts!

that said, i do hope you had a nice father’s day celebration in your family!

By: The Business Coach for Moms

The Business Coach for Moms — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 04:50:58 +0000

Dang-on-it! I want him to be there when i need him AND have sexy romantic days! But 16yrs of marriage and your blog post has convinced me to just give it up….unless I go out and have an affair…but I’m too tired for all that.

By: Bari

Bari — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 03:22:59 +0000

So much for marital bliss. The reality is “being there” is all about the love.
Love is a verb.